There is a hurt mother, child, and many others that have been hurt from some type of rejection no matter the cause. First of all - there is absolutely no way to justify the actions of that father. Even if you stayed in your house for the rest of your life, you will never be able to deny God's diverse Kingdom. I will be sharing your story, in hopes that it will shed light on a sin that far too many Christians overlook. Thanks so much for your bravery to post this comment.
My siblings and I had friends of every race and we did everything together. What makes a difference, and what proves them wrong, is going out there, head held high, and persevering in spite of them. We are all one color in the eyes of the Lord and no child, at any age, should have to experience prejudice of any nature. Just believe in the faith you profess, trust God through Jesus and he can fix the problem a whole lot better than you, and without the possibility of loosing all the friends that are involved. You get it, but still feel the need to play devil's advocate.
It is something that brings me to tears and anger righteously, I believe very easily. I can only hope in my own little way that I have made a difference. This first thing that happened was when were dating, I was told not to bring my then date to my parents home. My husband and I suffer the slings and arrows of being in an interracial marriage. Those guests include four black men who do not date black women. I'm just not comfortable with the idea of her being with the guys she's with.
Whether prom was supposed to be romantic for the two of them or not, she was absolutely looking forward to it. And that reality is that God is Ruler of all, and it is His desire is for us to seek him humbly, repent, and allow healing to come. Not necessarily because they were racist, but because they feared the racists around us. No parent wants their child to face adversity in their life-you for your son, and perhaps them for their daughter. I'll be writing the answer assuming your parents are totally cool with dating, though I think you're a tad early for dating, but that's your lookout. I'm pretty sure 200 years ago I would have been burned at the stake for the way I feel.
If abuse is suspected, consider trying to help in the following way: -Help your son or daughter identify and name the abuse. This is not about the Hollywood sensationalism of the prized white girl or the latest episode of a scripted reality show. Consider going for a ride since young people often share more when not looking at adults during challenging conversations and looking out at the long stretch of road. This makes me sick to my stomach. He is one of the sweetest guys I've ever met and he wouldn't do anything to hurt anybody! They are more likely to confide in you as a result. I wish, back then, that we had been able to have the discussion out in the open.
One of my main reasons for the post was to let my daugher know that I love and support her, no matter what others may say. We moved to the country our kids are from about three years after we adopted. They attend every event as an entourage, each taking turns as the superstar. They might decide to come back---or you might get a fabulous new place to visit if you stay open to it. Did I mention, I also happen to have a son with beautiful chocolate skin? It's easy to Judge and that's a sin too. Go back to watching The Vikings and saying how handsome Germans are. Anonymous I, of course, feel bad for your son, but I also feel bad for the girl who said yes she obviously was wanting to go with your son if she did say yes.
Please tell your son, this has happened to correct and teach the other family, not him. They have been broken by their past but I know God is in control of what has happened and is turning their faces to Him. Your story and the stories of others has changed how I see the world. When my daughter was born, he didn't come. He takes her on dates, to ballgames, out to eat. The best way to do it, is to explain that we're all the same kind of people and it's really stupid judging someone on their race.
How hard for her to understand their decision. It's good that there will be dialogue. But I had to see it for myself. No white man wants his daughters prom pics with a black male as her post high school dating life will be over. My daughter is 17 and she's dating a young black man who is also 17. Your son obviously has strong parents and maybe all can learn from the experience.
Corrie Peake That is just insane! My family will now fight for my wife, and our wonderful mixed son. Wrong probably won't last, you can help her avoid a bad experience by helping her end a disastrous relationship sooner rather than later. No, it has not been easy for them and like you my heart has broken for them. There is a reason why there are so many jokes about in-laws. Still, in those early days of dating my man, I saw insecurity in him due to how people had treated him in the past.
It's a step up for us and a step down for them. I am so very sorry your son suffered the pain of this experience. It is pure ignorance and it needs to stop! Glad the dad made a decision even though it wasn't the most popular one. But, perhaps, your child craves a more unusual life in a faraway place or has always been interested in other languages, cultures, or healthcare and social policies in other places. I do appreciate your participation in this discussion, but would be remiss if I did not point out the real reason we are on opposite sides of this discussion.