Then I tell her that it's not necessary, and everyone is happy. Society dictates that men are the breadwinners in Indonesia and if your male partner cannot at least provide some financial security for you, he will lose face completely. Do not even think about hiding something from them! This not only happen with the girls but also the guys, some people would wear long sleeves with jeans to the beach because they are too scared to get dark and prefer to stay in the house or hanging out in the malls or café instead of being outdoor. This is because if you give her cash, things can go out of control in the long term. I feel bad you treat me like this. The most appealing trait of all that I have met is modesty.
Indonesian Chinese girls are the hardest to get in Indonesia. And why did I have so much interest in women in Indonesia? Visiting Jakarta Kota Station Built in 1873, Jakarta Kota is one of the oldest train stations in Indonesia, this station is still operating up to this day. Like my comment before in other article : comment and article above is about stereotype , why they think bule like that , indonsian woman like this , if you want marry indonesian have to like this like that and bla bla bla because of they are classifying an experience about a group of people! It's a two-way match, and a great way to quickly find the members that you would most likely be compatible with! What I was trying to say is that this may be expected within her culture and that they should do their best to understand. The culture here is massively different. Even thou,I still expect my bule bf pay most not all of our date but bring other friends and expect him to pay seems so much.
Anonymous Perhaps it is important for expat to know the culture difference between Indonesia and their own. They found themselves surrounded by young sun kissed men showering them with all the attention of the world. Are you really want to get stamped as a cheap stingy bf? He said to me he just love me and will keep loving till die it's not about money looking for someone beautiful and nice girl, but not sure where i can find her in the world. My experience was of them harrasing me non stop on the streets, grinding on me in clubs, and telling me they love me after I ignored them. Anonymous I would never be able to have serious relationship with an asian girl because the gap between us would be too big.
You think because you get paid by dollars, any indo girls would flock around you? However i can understand why many seek out western women to pay for things…. Just in case you are dating an Indonesian, you may note some things have written above. Don't get your hopes up too high with even just the average girls today assholes. Believe me, I've met the top and the bottom in a lot of walks of life. Nothing wrong with that either though. Manny I'm an expat here, and even though I find a lot of the local girls attractive I will never let myself be used by anyone.
They met at some church exchange program. Be happy when you are the one that been blessed with more money so u can give more. I hope that sheds a bit of light on your understanding of Indonesians. Of course you are entitled to your opinion and I thank you for your feedback. I don't believe love is universal.
The food may look tasty but it is lethal and it will kill you. Because a lot of eyes looking at them. Otherwise, you get what u give. Ready to pay them whatever or to take a proper tour. There will always be trash expats, just as likely as trash indo men, likewise the analogy can be applied to the women. You want to buy gold at the fruit shop? Congrats for your marriage with Indonesian man I read your happiness and success over it through your brilliant piece like this one. Find new friends or start a new relationship, today! But since I make more money than he does, I don't really care.
But this is not a label, not every Indonesia are not into walking. And it is wise for them to have a go slow approach if they want their lady to join them in the swimming pool or for a dip down the beach. Wake up chum and broaden your horizons. Even once I was 7 hours away, he continued to help me. But sometimes dating Indonesian girls will be a challenging since in Indonesian girls's culture, man should treat the woman like a queen always It happen since they are all in school where every man treating them like a princess. And I don't know its fortunate or unfortunate if there, I usually meet young expats who straightly come to me and start to chit chat. The moment I knew he was married, I kept my distance.
I have spent 5 months of this last year in Bali. And dont be creepy by asking their phone numbers, address, or about personal life, except you have known him wel before. Harry: So did u date many guys from that dating site, and did u fall for some? Second, I think even for us the-independent-carrier-woman who have the money, is not all about the money it selves! Often though if the guy is kind to the girl the girl falls in love and is happy. I'm Kristin, a native Southern Californian who has dedicated her life to solo traveling the world in the most genuine way possible, always talking to locals and delving deep into the culture. You guys might be hangout together, spend lot of time together, eat together, watch movie together but still not officially a couple. The hot food and phone checking, you guessed it, they happened to me as well. Mudik is very common for Indonesian, they will sacrifice theirsel in traffic jam just so they can coming back to their home and celebrate Eid Mubarak.
I'm married to an Indonesian woman and would also like other mixed couples to post on my site about their experiences. So its not only in Bali but also in these countries where poverty and lack of education is common. They don't like to hurt someone's feeling. The women in Jakarta, Bali, and a few other cities treated me quite well. You are probably going to call me sexist as well as racist, but I have met so many men who are in this situation. Anonymous to Anonymous on Sept 4, 2011 or for those who think it matters : Bless.