This behavior is definitely going to hinder your mate if he or she is the sort who likes to explore innovative or intriguing pursuits. We talked for more than 8 hours on one occasion and the other occasions last for at least 2-3 hours. Want to build an amazing life with a special someone? They can therefore feel stuck. I don't think he was crazy about the results but it is so him! In a relationship, they hope to find somebody who will give them a chance to slow down, relax, and be taken care of for a change. We are very much into each other. She had great plans to do some creative work, but her excuses are that she has no time due to household chores or her space is not exactly how it needs to be for her to be creative. They are reserved with their thoughts and feelings, but this does not mean that they do not care.
Before we were dating, we were friends. Both parties have very strongly held beliefs and they are likely to be steadfast and stick to their guns when their convictions are challenged. I would visit him once a month, and instead of just sex, we would have a lot of fun. We may require a lot more alone time than you can comprehend. I am very responsible for my money and practical matters.
They relish the chance to share their wisdom, theories, and insights. I told my instructor that I could grasp the math if I could apply it to something in my life like my checkbook. I love hard but I hate just as hard. One thing I can always expect from my husband is that he always wants things done a certain way. When you are a people pleaser people have a tendency to try to use you.
Thank you for sharing your own story, too, Charis! The problem comes when they forget to maintain a level of realism and find their ideas blowing up in their face. I gave him the cold shoulder for a long time after that, but one day I realized he stopped pursuing me and stopped fighting to have me. It can be easy to become reliant and expectant of such activities, but try to remember that your partner takes great care and pride in the things they do for you and it is important that you frequently show your appreciation and affection. This can be a problem for bigger problems that need to be solved. The downside is that because we are both introverts, we often never end up doing anything worthwhile. They want to believe in the best in their partner even if it comes at a cost to their well being.
Regardless of the number of similarities and differences, each personality combination will have its unique set of challenges. But with our shared love of learning, and the joy we take in connecting different ideas, conversation remains intellectual and riveting long-term. These are the friends that meet me at a coffee shop, or lounge around watching movies or reading all day. He lacked a decent mother figure growing up, which he appreciates in me. Yet, our introversion and auxiliary Fe make us both value harmony + focus on pleasing our loved ones, which makes it easy for us to get along. There are usually a lot of sparks between these two types. Quiet time together is peaceful and relaxing.
You have an unexpected evening planned for you two? I just knew and felt something was wrong about it all. Her perspective often keeps me in check. Treat me like I treat you and we will all be fine. It feels we are connecting more at a deeper level. If we fight, its devastating for both of us. The first real conversation I had with my now boyfriend lasted over 3 hours while we and two or three other people some drifted in and out of the conversation talked about nerdy things.
Their incredible emotional intelligence helps them to better understand their partner and automatically works to meet their emotional, physical and mental needs. That is not to imply that they are overly strict, but they tend to take on more than their share of the work in a relationship in an attempt to utilize all of the potential within the connection. I agree with a lot of the comments above. They share the same judging and perceiving functions but of opposite attitudes. That changed when I started dating an —someone who is like me in so, so many ways, yet as different as the sun and the moon in others. Anyway he eventually did that.
We both like alone time, but he needs more than I do. Some things will take a long time to solve or may never be solved because we are both more interested in keeping the peace than feeling that tension around each other to keep bringing it up. In contrast, introverted intuition processes observations internally. They tend to take things slowly and may refrain from physical affections, especially sex, for a while. We handle disagreements with radical honesty and compromise.
Image Credit: Save Save Save So What Does This Actually Look Like? When things got rough, he would retreat into himself. He is curious and knowledgeable about many things and as such I'm always learning from him. It does depend on the individual but it is also just as you described. Even though who you should date is , there are some types that seem to get along particularly well together. They need strong partners to be in a truly healthy and fulfilling relationship for them. We both need personal space from time to time, but he seems to need more of it. They care deeply, especially about the people they are close to and the things they are passionate about.
Our marriage has been very bumpy since we got married last year. They are like yin and yang, their polar energies are somehow linked in a complementary way thanks to their shared preference for intuition although they are of different attitudes. Any type can work, as long as both types are mature enough to overcome their differences, and communicate their wants and needs. We find our conversations very fluent. I have befriended several introvert personality types in my lifetime. All they ask in return is commitment, love and, perhaps most of all, appreciation. They may alternate between periods of engagement and intimacy and periods of emotional distance and inaccessibility.